The Bittersweetness of Choosing a College


“We live in a house around the corner from my parents. He’s gone to all the same schools I went to, and his grandfather went to. We’ve lived this suburban, settled lifestyle. And, now, we’re telling him we want him to dream and live a life in the arts, if that’s what he wants. But, I can understand his suspicion that a life ‘out-there’ is a little far-fetched, given his experience.” – A Father of a High School Senior

The annual National College Admissions Reply Deadline is May 1, the day when high school seniors will respond that they accept a college admissions acceptance…or not. Within the decision-making process is an often-unexpected dilemma: tussling with a typically-hazy vision for their lives—predictable conventionality vs. live-your-dreams. Wrangling with the dilemma can spark vigorous debates and intense reflections. Yet, by May 1, the decision-making will end.

And, in truth, the complexity of choosing a college doesn’t mean having to sacrifice conventionality for dreams or vice versa. The debates are designed to illuminate the college environment where a fledgling adult can develop their potential—both for financial security and nurture their life’s purpose. When families carve time and space for difficult discussions then a decision will be made wisely and with confidence.

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About Jill Yoshikawa, Ed M, Partner of Creative Marbles Consultancy

Jill Yoshikawa, EdM, Harvard ’99, a seasoned, 25 year educator and consultant, is meticulous in helping clients navigate all aspects of the educational experience, no matter the level of complexity. She combines educational theory with experience to advise families, schools and educators. A UCSD and Harvard graduate, as well as a former high school teacher, Jill works tirelessly to help her clients succeed.
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